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The Over Thinker
The Over Thinker

The Over Thinker


The closer you get to bedtime, the more your brain fills up with ‘stuff’! The dreaded turning lights off leads to the mind buzzing, rather than a restful sleep. You may not be able to get to sleep quickly or wake up through the night and start thinking about everything eg. “I forgot to do X, Y and Z, how am I going to tackle this meeting tomorrow?” Your body seems to be ready to do anything BUT sleep. As soon as you want to start winding down, your brain winds up.

Your Sleep Diet

  1. There is no such thing as “not thinking”. Just the mere expectation that this is what relaxation exercises SHOULD do, may be exactly why they are not working!

  2. If you haven’t processed enough during the day and had enough opportunities to “stop” the thought process, how can you expect yourself to switch off as soon as you take away all your environmental stimulus? You have got to start processing more during the day – the more organised you are, the more time out you can have to process during the day and the less likely you need to do that in bed

  3. Use this as an opportunity to explore what can bring you back to balance – not just in the evenings! It could be a breathing technique, daydreaming out the window for 5 minutes, taking a short walk outside– what brings you back to balance in the middle of the hype? It only takes a minute to cut through a stress pattern

  4. Try scheduling in an opportunity to ‘process’ into your early evening. This could be a time where you write down things you need to do (making sure you follow through with your intentions), reflect on your day (looking at the good and bad – always looking at both) – using writing, rather than tech to do this. Your brain will get used to this and be less likely to do it later

  5. The very act of getting ready for bed can wind you up. Try getting ready for bed an hour earlier (perhaps just after step four) and giving yourself that opportunity to do the bits you have forgotten, such as unloading the dishwasher, and then enjoy your new “me time” that you’ve created. That way, when you feel sleepy tired, all you have to do is take yourself off to bed!


Whilst it might seem unrelated, using the other profile techniques to build on regulating your sleep can make you less sensitive to your brains ability to throw thoughts in your way.

If you’re over-thinking in bed, the last thing we should be doing is adding not sleeping to the worry. One poor night of sleep isn’t going to hurt you – get up and get out of bed and enjoy/distract yourself. You may feel slightly less ‘on it’ the next day, but a little bit of sleepiness whilst following some healthy sleep advice can actually be good for you! Quality over quantity!